27 December 2007

As some of you have already said, others already know, and still more might imagine, there is nothing like the feeling of landing back in the US with your daughter.

Sure things are irrevocable after the court decree, and sure many of the steps that follow are mere formalities, but there is still an instinctive breath holding until that moment when you actually land back home that feels almost primal.

Well, that last step has come and gone, and I must say that even in a state of near exhaustion - or perhaps because of it - once you take that first breath, make that first step, and see that first smile back home, everything that precedes it loses all its edges.

The procurement of the dossier no longer feels to have been so tedious. The waiting while the Kaz ministries first decided if, and later from where, we could adopt seems shorter than we first thought. The frustrations experienced during the eight weeks in country appear more trivial. Even the food we managed to get through in Kaz we now miss. All this makes it feel possible we might actually do this again someday. But that is a topic for another day.

Aitugan did very well during her flights. I know that the impending travel at the end of the adoption process is a time to be rightfully apprehensive, but that acknowledged, again the reality was far better than the preflight concerns we had created in our minds.

As we stated above, she did only sleep briefly on each of the first two legs of the journey - first a 3-hour journey to Ekaterinberg and then a 6-hour flight to London. The London to Boston 7-hour flight saw an inverse in her patterns as she slept all but brief periods of eating and diaper changes. We even had to actively keep her awake during the take of and ascent so that she could continue to suck her thumb and keep her ears clearing.

We alluded to it earlier, but our trip home seemed to hit a snag before we even got to the airport. We were excited to travel Christmas Day for many reasons, though chief among them was certainly that we expected to find quite empty flights.

Well apparently the airlines tend to not take the same loving view of offering their travelers unlimited seats in which to spread out, for hours before the journey was to begin, British Air cancelled our London to Boston flight for seemingly no reason. As a result, we were rescheduled to a flight to New York with a four hour layover and then a quick flight up to Boston.

In all it was to not only add on 5 hours to the journey, but also add one more up and down in a plane - the most difficult part for any child. KJ's and my tickets were easy enough to change as they were e-tickets and could just be re-written through the computer. Aitugan's ticket however was far more difficult to change - though for reasons that still seem implausible.

We had to purchase Aitugan's ticket at the BMI office (a British Air partner) in Almaty and of course it was issued as two parts, the first to London and the second to Boston. When our itinerary changed such that there were now three legs home, we needed to get a third leg reissued for her ticket, and since it was a paper ticket, it had to be done at a ticketing agent.

We spent nearly an hour at the check-in counter in Almaty as one by one, the desk attendants cycled through offering their best guess at how to make our tickets correct. Seemingly in an act more resembling a giving up on rather than a resolution of, we were allowed to board with the understanding that we would need to go to BA's counter in London and simply get another ticket.

Sure, they make it sound so simple that for a moment you actually believe it could be, but then you arrive in London and realize you've been had. We went first to a BA desk in the transfer lounge where it was stated clearly that what we had for her would not work and that we needed to have BMI reissue her ticket.

So off across the lounge we went to the BMI desk. There we found out that on most days, they in fact have a fully staffed desk, but because of the holidays, we would have to go out through customs to the main ticketing desk in the departures area.

After venting a bit of frustration in the direction of the hapless attendant who - in a scene straight out of a movie - reasserted that it really was just around the corner, and again because of the holidays and resulting lack of crowd, would only take a few minutes.

As we moved to the front of the line at customs, we hit a wall of sorts. Aitugan was traveling under her Kazak passport, and since we had not obtained a tourist visa for Britain for her, there would be much additional paperwork to be completed before she could go through, regardless of the reason.

We decided that KJ and Aitugan would remain inside the transfer lounge and I would go 'out' and sort out our tickets and then join them in front of Harrod's. Of course we had no cell phones that would work in London and so had no way of contacting one another had anything gone wrong, but we seemed to have no other choice.

I went through customs and found the BMI ticket agent and of course was told that BA should have been able to make this change, since after all it was they who cancelled the flight and created the need for the re-routing. I was directed out of the departure hall to a neighboring building where I found the BA ticket agent.

Without pause he looked at the ticket, listened to my story and stated that BMI was in error. Fortunately I had taken down the name and number of the BMI guy and asked that the BA agent call him and sort this out.

As I was standing at the counter listening to the conversation going back and forth between the two sides, I asked another agent when the flight to New York that we were working so hard to get on to actually was set to depart, when invariably she tells me that boarding closes in 3 minutes, two terminals away.

Alright clearly that is not going to work so what is plan C? After some hemming and hawing, I am told of a direct flight on American to Boston that we should be able to make, but that I still have to go back to the BMI desk to make the changes. So off I go, all the while hoping that KJ, Aitugan and I will actually find each other at the end of this.

Off to BMI I set, assuming of course that both sides were in agreement as to how now to proceed. Well not quite it turns out. BMI could and would reissue our tickets, but first BA would have to release our reservation. They actually looked to me and asked me whether they had released our reservation. Am I the one looking at the computer as they incessantly type whatever novel it is they are creating as I stand there? Was I the one on the phone with them five minutes before when I was back over at the BA desk?

No problem, they would call over. What, no one at BMI seems to have a phone number for BA? No problem, they'll send an agent over to BA and he'll come back with the information. Meanwhile, the man behind the computer goes back to his literary masterpiece pausing every few hundred words to look over my passport, or ask how to spell Aitugan's name.

Several chapters later, fearless Francoise, our fateful runner is no where to be found. It has now been over an hour since KJ and I split up, and the sands in the proverbial hourglass seem to be nearing the end where our getting to Boston was concerned.

In an apparent conciliatory act, the agent agrees to issue the ticket ahead of BA's clearance, though now begins to inform me that I will not be able to go through security here in terminal 1 to rejoin KJ and Aitugan since our new tickets have us departing from terminal 3.

What to do?

I implore them to find a solution as I have no way of contacting KJ, and after detailing the convoluted path they suggested I make from the BMI desk over to terminal 3, through security, onto a bus back to terminal one, find KJ and get back on a bus to terminal 3, they mention that they might be able to escort me through security here at terminal 1 and avoid all of this nonsense.

Several calls, and seemingly hours, later, I am heading through security with our new tickets in hand and rejoin KJ and AItugan who have waited faithfully for my return. We make our way over to terminal 3 and assess the prospect of one day rejoining with our luggage again - all three going missing was the odds on favorite.

Once on board the AA flight, Aitugan had worn out her last bit of energy and needed constant jiggling and jostling to keep her awake enough to suck her thumb. It was a nice moment of comic relief as these two new parents found it required more and more physical shaking to create the same awake response as time went on.

As I said, 0 of 3 bags seemed most likely with a slim chance of 3 for 3, but the resultant 2 of 3 was a surprise. Clearly someone had taken the three claim numbers and gone looking for our bags to get them re-routed in the correct alignment, how then do only two make it.

We still don't know. Hopefully the bag will show up as it has nearly all of KJ's things, plus the bulk of our souvenirs/gifts/mementos from Kaz. Maybe we'll get around to calling after it at some point today, but the reality is that we are just having so much fun having her home with us, in our house, with our dogs, that tracking luggage doesn't reach high on the list of priorities.

We hope that everyone is having a wonderful holiday, and we wish the Robinson's a smooth an eventless journey home in just a few hours. Know that many of us are thinking of the three of you today and look forward to connecting with you soon. Take Care.



Well I have to at least make it seem like our little angle slept all the way. The truth was that she slept for maybe an hour during the first ten hours and two flights that took us from Almaty to Ekaterinberg to London.



Here we are getting set to leave Kaz. There was definitely an odd 'wow, I can't believe it is really over' quality to it.





Taxiing out of the gate at Almaty



Aitugan has really taken to music and just had to see how these latest headphones stood up. As one might expect, they were no competition for an infant.



Touching down for a brief refueling stop in Ekaterinberg, the local weather was -27 C with 25 mile an hour winds. Not exactly a popular destination for Christmas Break.



We thought - incorrectly - that once we left Kazakhstan, we would surely be rid of the random babushkas telling us how to care for our child. How wrong we were. Luckily, we parted ways in London and were able to finally walk our daughter through a public space without a hat, and without a lecture.



We arrived home in Maine shortly after midnight, and though we stayed up for several hours, decided to wait until the next morning to open gifts. Aitugan received a great number of wonderful things, though the clear favorite was the wrapping paper. There is just something captivating about the sound of tearing paper.















18 comments:

Anonymous said...

Love that photo of the babushka. Her face reads "oh, you crazy people who can't take care of this baby" and Aitugan's face reads "oh dear God, help me" Hilarious.

Thanks for sharing your travels with those of us who are (hopefully) about to go!
Shannon

Kathy said...

It has been great to follow your blog. What a beautifl baby you have. Enjoy this and every holiday as a forever family. see you at Kazapalooza!

Kathy (Ben and Delaney's Mom)

marsrob said...

One hour of sleep! Oy vey! We are getting packed and ready for tonight's adventure and we'll be hoping against hope that Aila gets too tired to fuss...smile.

Those photos of Aitugan with the dogs are ADORABLE! And seeing her in your home with xmas presents - it is just amazing. Cannot wait to touch U.S. soil again and when we wake up sometime in the next few days, we'll try to touch base. We miss you guys already!

xoxoxox

Sandi said...

What great photos and a great home welcoming.

I love her with the dogs!!

Thanks for sharing your journey it is immensely helpful as I am about to embark on my journey.

Happy New Year.
sandi

tonilynn said...

I have been following your blog with great enjoyment. We adopted our son from Shymkent, Aug. 05. Your daughter is absolutely beautiful! It is such a wonderful feeling when you land here in the states and know they are truly yours!

Anonymous said...

I love how the dogs are just mellowing into baby interaction. Our guys mostly figured it out quickly too.
Though ours don't get to come inside for their interactions. Aitugan crawling over the dog, precious! Sofia wasn't really interested in the paper, she wanted to see what we all got so she could carry it around. A huge sigh of relief for all of you, home with baby!!!!!
Sofia, Andy and Liz

Matthew Ruley said...

Welcome home!

Wow you still look rested and alert and not-craky after one hour of sleep. Love the photo of Aitugan leaping over the dogs! She's going to be a gymnist!

Anonymous said...

Welcome home and congratulations! Your blog has been an inspiration that our upcoming adoption will actually be a reality...sooner than we think! I'd love to connect in the future as we are not far from you (Freeport). Best wishes in adjusting to parenthood at home and hopes for rest and relaxation in the New Year. (Wait, is that possible with a toddler?)
(-:

Julian and Sara said...

Air travel - piece of cake!

Jennifer said...

Wow! What a story! When I started reading the Almaty part, I was shaking my head enthusiastically as that's the exact same thing we went through- they couldn't figure out Gigi's ticket, and since it was clear we were having communication issues, it was much easier to ignore issuing us tickets rather than fix the problem until 10 minutes before the plane door closed (never mind that we arrived 2.5 hours in advance!). Same result when we went to Frankfurt. No seat assignments, no confirmation. That's where your story goes unimaginable. We simply had to stand in line for 1.5 hours. I thought that was bad, but now I'm grateful that's all it was. Holy cow. I'm so glad you made it home through all of that. I'm amazed at your patience and the calm way you retell the story.

The pictures are of course beautiful. I love the ones of her rolling over the dogs. Priceless!

Regina said...

Egads, talk about feeling air sick! There is something about air travel that will turn even the most patient, reasonable, kind-hearted person into "that guy." You know, the raving lunatic who is all red-faced, screaming and making a scene at the ticket counter. I don't know how you handled that level of incompetence with such poise, but kudos to you!

Thank you guys for being such an inspiration. You all 3 look even more beautiful and happy at HOME!

All the best wishes to you for a great 2008!

Carrie, Rich and the Kids said...

Congratulations!

I found your blog because I am researching Kaz adoption. We have a 21 month old adopted from Guatemala in Nov. 2006. I so know what you mean about doing over again, but Guatemala is not a possibility.

We live in CT!

Enjoy your daughter!

kitzkazventure said...

So glad to see that you are all home safe and sound. Looking forward to meeting you all at Kazapalooza. I think we should all bring photos of our apartments/hotels and have a best and worst contest. Your apartment was amazing! Enjoy your new family at home! The dogs have the same look our dog did..."excuse me, what in the world have you brought into my house??" :) The Kitzmans

Susan said...

so glad you made it home safe.
Man, what a nightmare in the airport....I'm so glad it worked out!!!

welcome home! i love the pics of her with your dogs.

Amy said...

Yeahhh!!! Home Sweet Home. Have a great New Year with your new family.

Kristan and Mark said...

Now that you are home, isn't it hard to believe that you really lived the entire experience, except of course that you have your beautiful daughter to show for it.

One feeling that I wasn't prepared to experience was when I would read or hear of snaffus in the adoption world, I would find myself stopping to remind myself that we were done. Our adoption was complete, except for post placements, no more paper work, no more waiting. It was the strangest feeling, yet so empowering!!

Anonymous said...

It has been so wonderful sharing your journey to bring that beautiful little girl home!
And it was bittersweet to see the boys - I'm glad to see them doing so well with the munchkin - poor Midou - lol - the look on his face is priceless. Give them and the baby a big hug for me - Happy New Year!!!
Sherri

The Cook said...

Oh Welcome home! Happy 2008 to the whole family!